Marriage is a social union between two person. When you talk about two person, you talk about a social union, love, respect and the first thing you need to do when you want to take a descision it's to talk with your partner as if you are living for someone else. Therefor to be in relation ship, means to share something with a person you love. But now in our society, the rate of the marriage is very low and there are many explications about that. The solution is probably to revise arranged marriage. Firstly , most couples marry too young so they do not have the time to know each others they just look the first click but can we just rely this idea for getting married, I think not because we can not forge a long term relation ship with the first impression of the person. I am agree with the idea that in a relation you need to love the person but you do not just need that. You must have the ability to support the person, that may seem brutal but it is the ugly truth. If you are getting married with someone because you think that she or he is your soul mate you are probably doing a mistake because there are more than love in a relation ship. Marriage arranged can probably resolve this problem because like Israr Mirza said in the video of arranged Marriage the best person to know with which person you are compatible it is your parents or your friends. Secondly, the biggest aspect that makes the rate of marriage and divorce too low it is because of the time. Everybody in the world want a companion for his or her life but they do not have the time to choose the good person or they just do not find the person. In the past, marriage passed before work so it was easy because you had to find a partner as soon as possible to survive sometimes because the man brought the money at home, but now women have the power to make money so they do not need men to live or a men for now that is why work comes before love, marriage and children today. And work is equal with time. Consequently, marriage arranged means a good way to save times because you do not need to think or try to find a person that represents you as Reema Paracha said in the video. In conclusion, these two aspects make a bad rate of marriage and divorce: first click, fake love and time. And it changed my mind about arranged marriage when I saw the videos. So now I consider myself more as a person agree or at least a person who understands these people who pratice arranged marriage.
You make a really good point when you say that when we wish to get married, love isn’t sufficient and we have to consider other things more important. Just as an example, we all know that couples which are made up just after one meeting with the only reason that they are “soul mate” don’t survive a long time. Also, it’s true the lack of time is a major problem in our society. If people don’t have the time for thinking to themselves, what it could be when it’s the time to thinking to the other? Maybe it’s difficult but some people are capable to do it because they realize that it just takes a minimum of determination, but it’s not everybody. However, I disagree with you when you say that our parents and our friends know us more than us. They aren’t in our head and sometime, when we never listen ourselves, we take the risk to never be happy.
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